Following Your Path to Greatness

This is an update of my August 31, 2011 post entitled "Career Success: Following Your Path to Greatness."

Steve Jobs had a lot to teach us about truly "listening" to and being guided by our inner voice. What an amazing example of boundless creativity and fearless action that man was.

"Trust that it will all work out ok," are inspiring words of wisdom Steve Jobs' shares during his commencement address at Stanford University in 2005. "Follow your curiosity and intuition" he says as he shows how his path led to greatness.

When my clients who are seeking to find the kind of job or career they'll love take the Life Theme Assessment they usually say "you know, I always thought about doing that." 

Steve's speech reminds us that life usually gives us clues, inklings about our true path. It's not always easy to listen or to respond to that calling like Steve Jobs did. Sometimes we push that little voice aside that gets us in touch with what we really want and we decided to go for the money instead or we think somehow following our path is harder than staying miserable in a job we don't like.  

And yet, time and again I've witnessed, and have experienced in my own career, as Steve Jobs' so aptly put it -- if you find what you love, have faith and don't settle, what you desire eventually comes to you.

At this time in our history when new ideas and out-of-the-box solutions are so needed in our economy and our world it's worth considering -- what amazing avenues of creativity would open for you in life if you truly listened and followed the dots?

If you were inspired by Steve Job's speech, leave a comment about how his words of wisdom touched you.


Linda Hardenstein, MPA, PCC, helps college graduates and professionals how to find their authentic career and gain more satisfaction from work.  To get a free recording of the Secrets Most Job Seekers Don't Know about Finding a Job You'll Love, click here, put "free mp3" in the comments section and I'll send it to you.      

Are You a Professional Dealing With a Horrible Boss? Secrets for Winning - Part 2

This is Part 2 of my previous post providing tips for dealing with a horrible boss. It's not uncommon at some point in your career to have what you would describe as a "horrible boss." Handling them and surviving is an art. In addition to the previous tips you can:


4.  Explore Your Options.  Without taking the time to identify what options you have for dealing with your situation you feel trapped. Feeling trapped can make you think you have only two choices to go or to stay.  With a little exploration, or brainstorming with a coach, friend or mentor, you may be able to discover that there are more choices than you think. Are there options are for getting some relief inside the organization? What internal mechanisms exist for resolving conflicts with your boss or co-workers? Is there someone you can talk to within the organization?  What are the ramifications of speaking up, of keeping quiet?  When speaking up it is essential to use excellent communications skills and to know what you want so you don't make your situation worse. 
5.  Get out.  After exploring all of your options if making a job change or leaving are your only choices, create your path to freedom before you quit. When you've got a lot of work to do it can be hard to find the time to begin or manage a job search campaign but it can be done. You need an organized, strategic, carefully crafted, step-by-step exit strategy. You'll want to stay productive AND achieve your job transition goals. Part of your strategy should be how to leave on the best possible terms.

6.  Get Help. Sometimes it's hard to deal with a horrible boss on your own, especially if you're in a management position and can't discuss things with your colleagues. This is when a coach, mentor or trusted adviser can help you brainstorm and come up with creative strategies to overcome obstacles, find a ray of hope, stay motivated, do something you may not have thought of, or create a winning exit strategy. Coaches like me offer laser coaching sessions that help you zero in on your unique situation to develop a winning strategy to deal with a difficult boss so you can improve your work situation and your life. If I can be of assistance to you feel free to contact me or use my automated calendaring system to schedule a complimentary session.

If you've survived a "horrible boss" and have some tips to share please add your comment below. 

Linda Hardenstein, MPA, PCC, helps professionals and managers who want to improve their careers and build a better life achieve more of what they want through personal achievement coaching and authentic career development. Find out more at her website.

Are You a Professional Dealing With a Horrible Boss? Top 3 Secrets for Winning - Part 1

"My boss is always yelling," said an attorney when listing the primary reasons for wanting to change not only jobs but careers. A friend who overheard this and who works on his own remarked that he couldn't believe things like that happened in "professional" environments. As a veteran of law firm life and someone who has experienced and figured out how to survive and successfully deal with more than one "horrible boss," I let him know it's not that uncommon. This recent article about Horrible Bosses and Poor Leadership in Fast Company confirms it.

There's nothing worse than going to work everyday and facing a horrible boss. It can stifle your productivity, be depressing, debilitating, sabotage your confidence, wipe out your self-esteem and burn you out faster than you can say "I'm outta here!" So how can you outsmart a horrible boss and lessen internal conflict to maintain productivity, stay focused and accomplish your personal and professional achievement goals on the job? Here are 3 tips for dealing with a horrible boss: 

1.  A winning strategy.  Martha's boss was always "holding her back" from developing her skills and wasn't giving her recognition for all that she did. She was tired of being a victim. After analyzing her situation we developed a strategy for Martha to break-out of this pattern by figuring out how her boss could win and she could win too. Martha convinced her joining some organizational committees would be good for both of them. It helped the boss with intel and gave Martha greater exposure and recognition. She was soon noticed and scooped up by a more appreciative boss who saw her value. Working up a winning strategy takes some personal reflection and its helpful if someone who is independent from your situation can help you see opportunities that can better your situation. 

2.  Be willing to shift. We've all heard it a million times and unfortunately it's true -- you can't change someone else you can only change yourself. Be willing to change how you operate or respond to situations to get a different, more positive outcome. To paraphrase Dr. Phil, how is what you're doing now work'en for ya? If what you are doing now was effective you wouldn't be looking for a way out. A willingness to change how you look at things or react is an essential element of a winning strategy.
 
3.  Set limits. Determine how much you're willing to tolerate and set a timeline for making a change. Just the simple act of setting a timeline can give you a feeling of relief. You'll begin to see a spark at the end of a tunnel of what probably feels like a very long, hard traveled road. 


Dealing with a horrible boss on your own isn't easy, especially if you're in a management position, don't have anyone to talk to and can't trust your colleagues. This is when a coach, mentor or trusted adviser can help you by brainstorming creative solutions that overcome obstacles, give you a ray of hope, keep you motivated, or help you make the progress you haven't been able to make on your own. Coaches like me offer long-term and short-term laser sessions focused on your current dilemma so you can zero in and develop a winning strategy to deal with your difficult boss and improve your work situation for a better life. Contact me or use my automated calendaring system to schedule a complimentary session.

Do you have a question you'd like addressed in Part 2 or a tip you'd like to share? Leave your comment below. 

Linda Hardenstein, MPA, PCC, helps professionals and managers who want to improve their work situation and build a better life achieve their goals in work and in life through personal achievement coaching and authentic career development. Find out more at her website. 

Productivity and Work Life Balance - It Can be Done!

Is it possible to be productive without working so hard? Evidently so according to The Business Insider's article on the ability of the French to work shorter hours and produce more. 

Clients who take my Overwhelm Busters® classes learn about a productivity study conducted at a major corporation some years ago. A group of employees were asked to spend an hour of their work day doing absolutely nothing (this down time was in addition to their lunch hour). At the conclusion of the study those who did nothing for an hour a day saw an increase in productivity.

When we give ourselves some down time our brains get an opportunity to process things and come up with creative ideas or solutions to our most pressing problems. Why not take a lesson from the French and give ourselves a break? 

This summer is the perfect time to do your own experiment. Give yourself some well-deserved rest and down time and see how much more you get done. Let me know how it goes by leaving me your comments!

Linda Hardenstein, MPA, PCC, is a personal achievement coach who helps women professionals leverage their high potential, develop authentic careers and make powerful decisions that increase their profitability and effectiveness. Contact her through her website.

 

 

Achievement: What Does Smiling Have to Do With It?

I don't know about you, but I'm not a fan of grocery shopping. I am however, an expert at reading environments and advising my clients how to make their work spaces more productive, inviting, empowering and profitable. That's why a local grocery store captured my attention. I always feel good in there. An early morning shopping trip is an uplifting experience. It sets me off on the right foot and keeps me positive all day. What is it that always makes me go back to this store? Everyone who works there is friendly and willingly gives away a smile. 

Do you want to feel less stress, be happier, enjoy work more, attract more clients, business, job opportunities, friends? Give a simple smile a try. Here are some reasons why smiling is so good for us:

Have you ever noticed how impossible it is not to smile back at someone?Try an experiment and see how many smiles you can give away today and notice the impact on you. Leave me a comment and let me know how your experiment worked!

Linda Hardenstein, MPA, PCC, is your personal achievement coach, helping you create peak performance environments and find new directions in your career and life to boost your power to achieve.

Five Easy Steps for Getting Your Career Back on Track

Are you feeling stressed, burned out, or like you're going nowhere in your career? If you find yourself constantly complaining about your job to family, friends and co-workers, it may be time to set a new career direction. Here's five easy steps for getting your career back on track:

1. Review these 11 Signs Your Career Has Stalled and check off the ones that are relevant to you.
   
2. Identify your options. It's easy to feel stuck or to have blinders on when it comes to being able to see beyond your current situation. As a career coach one thing I do is help my clients see opportunities they may not have noticed before. If career coaching isn't for you, try brainstorming with a trusted friend or family member to create a list of your career options and what you'd like to accomplish in your career.
   
3. Make a plan. What are the benefits you want from all of the hard work, hours and energy you put in every day? Maybe you'd like to learn something new, interact more with people, become more well-known, or get a promotion. Maybe you want a paycheck to pay for the bills and a lifestyle where you have more time with your family.  Once you're clear on what you want, make a plan so it is more likely to happen.
   
4. Make it real. Identify your next steps.  Do you need additional skills or training? How will you let others know about your goal? What support systems do you need to accomplish your career goal?
   
5. Take action!

A well-thought out and executed career plan can help you alleviate stress and burn out by providing clarity and focus so you know what you're doing and why. It can provide the positive direction that ultimately leads to more satisfaction in your work and life.  

Linda Hardenstein, MPA, PCC helps you find new directions in your career by identifying the kind of work you'll love and helping you achieve successful career or retirement transitions. Find out more at her website and feel free to send her your career questions.

Stressed Out? Five Quick Tips to Help You Chill

It's summer and the living should be easy - right? These days almost everyone is stressed about something -- jobs, money, the economy, health, etc. It takes conscious effort to stay in a peaceful state of mind in today's world.  Here are five tips you can try for chilling out:

1. In her book "99 Things you Wish You Knew Before Stressing Out" Lauren Miller says we begin to stress out when we're feeling unsafe, "I might fail; I might be fired; I might be unseen, unheard, overlooked." She suggests one way to disconnect from insecurity is to connect to what you value most in life. What do you value most in your life? Make a list of your values. Is the way you're living in alignment with your values? If not, this could be one source of stress. 
2. There's nothing like going for a walk and breathing in nature to de-stress one's mind and and ease one's soul.
3. Do you know what your rejuvenator is? Your rejuvenator is something you do that is totally different from who you really are, or who you think you should be in the world. It helps you stay balanced. For example, if you're a straight-laced, suit-wearing professional like an attorney, your rejuvenator might be riding your Harley. If you're someone who works with people all week, like a Realtor or a retail sales clerk, your rejuvenator might be chilling out, reading a book at home alone. Explore what activities rejuvenate you and recognize that "being a slug" could be a good thing -- a necessary component for getting rid of some stress and having a balanced life.
4. If you've participated in my Overwhelm Busters® classes you know about the research that shows our brains can hold only so much information. Taking a break is a great way to de-stress and improve productivity. Getting away from your desk, your project, whatever is consuming you and allowing your mind to "float" may actually give your brain the space it needs to come up with the brilliant or creative solution you've been looking for. 
5. Clearing the clutter from your desk or your room can help you create a less stressful environment. Our environment reflects back to us where we are in our lives. If your environment is out of control it can make you feel that way too. If you're feeling overwhelmed a quick remedy can be stopping and cleaning up your desk. Gaining control of your environment can give you a greater sense of control over your work day and that should alleviate some stress!

I'd love to hear what you think of these tips and what has helped you de-stress at work or in life. Leave me a comment!

To find out more about conquering overwhelm and stress at work, Linda provides personalized strategies for your unique situation. Contact her for a complimentary consultation or check out her Stress Reduction Session Special Offer.